Dancing, my comfort zone, my self coach

Be patient with me on this one. It may start out as a diary entry, but it will make a point, I promise.

Have you ever felt like you were getting a sign? A number of people had challenged me to get out of my comfort zone. Then, I was asked to participate in Dancing with The Branson Stars. My first two thoughts – I ain’t (I often think in poor grammar) a star and I can’t dance. Even with that, I got reinforcement from my wife, Derinda, and I said yes because there is no better way for me to get out of my comfort zone than dance, or try to dance.

Derinda and I met Kelly (the professional dancer) at our home, we talked about what we were going to do, and she taught me a few moves. We met a couple of other times at the house and I began thinking, okay this isn’t going to be too bad.

Then Kelly wanted to meet at a dance studio. So the Sunday before the Friday night event, we met at the Dance Studio. Did you know that a dance studio has many mirrors? The mirrors are so you can see what you look like on the dance floor. I did not want to see what I looked like on the dance floor. I thought I looked bad – but I had no idea. I walked out of that rehearsal thinking about ways to get out of this commitment, ideas included staging my own kidnapping, but I thought a felony might be a little much.

On top of the dance event that week, I had a speaking engagement on Thursday and it was the last week of the month, which is always a busy time at the station. Sunday, I was feeling sorry for myself. I decided that I needed a meeting with myself to discuss a few things. It was a three item agenda.

1. I had made commitments and I was going to hold to those commitments.
2. Kelly had worked hard to help. I needed to shut-up and stop telling myself that I could not do this and listen to her and get this dance down.
3. I did not want to embarrass Derinda or let Kelly down.

The event happened. It was a fun night – I got through the dance without embarrassing Derinda or letting Kelly down. My points this week:

1. Now that it is over, it was fun to be that nervous again. When I speak, I need a couple of butterflies to keep my on guard. Friday night was more like dinosaur type butterflies.

What about you and your business, how long has it been since you tried something so new that you get butterflies.

2. Now that it is over, Sunday night was important to the process. Having to watch myself dance was not fun, but it was important.

What about you and your business, when was the last time you held a mirror up to see how you are doing?

3. Now that it is over, having to learn the basics was an interesting concept. Kelly had to keep reminding me about the simplest of dance moves, like not letting my arms flop – be strong, etc.

What basics have we all forgotten in our businesses? In a down economy, basics are more important than ever.

4. Now that it is over, I will have more self-meetings. I always talk to myself, but this was a hard core, door closed meeting that I had to have with myself on Sunday Night. It was time to cowboy up, lock and load, get focused, etc, etc.

What about you, need to have a sit down with yourself? I believe that we all have a coaching spirit deep down inside. Mine has a Bobby Knight attitude and he really let me have it on Sunday night.

Are you taking care of yourself as you should be? Are you too busy telling yourself you can’t do something to actually go out and do it?

Do not misunderstand me; I realize my strong limitations as a dancer. Nevertheless, going through the process was interesting and exciting and I am glad I did it. I would encourage you to find a way to get out of the comfort zone this week.

Have a great week.

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